Divorce, however amicable, is still a stressful process. It takes an emotional, as well as financial, toll on both sides of the family. Even prior to getting married, two out of three cohabiting couples are worried about the consequences of potential dissolution of their union. Here at Leeds Divorce Solicitors, we are used to receiving stressed-out clients into our office and we have learnt to meet their various needs over the years. Divorce solicitors are so much more than legal representatives – they are armed with a wealth of knowledge that includes all of the complex aspects of divorcing your partner, both before and after the case reaches the court or a collaborative agreement is drawn up. We take great care to listen to the biggest concerns that our clients have and respond to them in the best possible way – a way that is productive, informative and takes their emotional struggles into consideration.
If you have already made your decision to go through with the divorce, you are probably worried too. We would like to ease the burden and help you deal with the stress, and that is why we have compiled a list of three questions that our solicitors most frequently encounter during the first few meetings with their clients. We hope that having them answered will calm you down at least a tiny bit.
- How will I manage my finances on my own? It is not uncommon for us to meet clients who have never been financially independent before the divorce. If that is the case for you, or even if you have had some experience of living on your own, such a sudden change does seem rather daunting. We advise all of our clients to plan ahead in order to avoid financial hardship. The first thing that you should do is close all of your joint bank accounts or at least freeze them temporarily. It will allow you to make sure that you will not have to pay any bills or deal with any kind of debt that your partner may run up. Once you have done that, analyse your bank statements. You will be able to determine the extent of your financial requirements and start thinking about how to meet them. Work out the value of your assets and liabilities as well. It is also essential to have some savings to help you through those first few months, so start saving up as early as possible. If you do not own a credit card, getting one is an excellent idea. You should use it carefully though in order to build up a good credit score – it will come in handy if you need to take out a loan later on. Finally, if all of this seems too difficult to handle on your own, consider hiring a financial advisor. Our solicitors can recommend a trustworthy and affordable professional, who will make the transition a whole lot easier.
- Will I have to go to court? We do our best to avoid such an outcome and an amicable agreement is always preferred. There are two main alternatives to court proceedings – namely, collaborative divorce and mediation. Collaborative divorce involves the lawyers of both parties agreeing to help their clients resolve their disputes by using cooperative techniques. In other words, it is a process of mutual negotiation. The same can be said about mediation, however, a neutral third party – a mediator – is in charge of finding a suitable solution in this case. Both of these options take less time, are less expensive and cause less stress than litigation, and we make sure to offer them to all of our clients.
- How will I deal with the emotional strain? The emotional impact of getting divorced cannot be overlooked and we work extremely hard to provide our clients with the support that they so desperately need. A number of issues might surface during the process, such as anxiety, depression, insomnia and panic attacks. We encourage our clients to get professional help, or turn to their friends or family, if these problems become hard to manage. Having a reliable support network is absolutely key in getting through the hard times. It is also important to try and focus on your future goals rather than past regrets. Think about your dreams and ambitions – what would you like to do with this new-found freedom? Do not view your divorce as a personal failure or a negative outcome. It might very well become an opportunity for change and significant growth.
Whatever worries and misgivings you may have about the process, do not hesitate to bring them up during the meetings with our solicitors. We are here to help. Our company is focused on achieving the best possible outcome for all of our clients while never failing to appreciate the struggles that they may be facing.